I never really realized there was a word for what my husband does until yesterday.

He has arguments with me in his head before the topic is ever approached. I have no idea what is going on in his mind. Tonight I came in after cigarette and said something to him I don't even remember what it was and he snapped at me saying "I already told you not to talk to me." I get caught of guard by stuff like this on a fairly regular basis. Turns out he was already preparing an argument over my…

How to keep your cool when you are being stonewalled.